This Month ....20/21 years ago

20 years ago this week I gave birth to my Beautiful Son ! He was the most wanted child on this earth - 14 months earlier his baby sister died :(

Rosie Gray was born on the 10th of July 1989 - she died on the 4th October just 12 weeks later.
Rosie was a delicious,divine, delectable baby, she was a little sister to my first born and sooo wanted.

During my pregnancy I felt well and very healthy - I had given up the ciggies ( I prayed to the "BIG FELLA" upstairs to help me with that task - AND IT WORKED - I DID NOT TOUCH ONE !! ) I gave up the DRINK and i eat vvvv healthily - looking back now I realise the medics must have known that problems were a foot. I was scanned 5 times in less than 3 months and at each scan my personal dates ( last lady time etc .!) were questioned. Suffice to say I knew my Baby was due on the day she was born - the medics didn't expect her until 6 weeks later !!! I gave birth to Rosie Gray by emergency Cesarean on the exact due date ........

The following morning i was told that my baby was v v v ill ... she may live for hours - days - years(they didn't know) .... she had been born with a genetic condition "microcephallic" her brain had not developed in my womb. I was told to love and cherish every moment that I would have with her... and so I did - I kissed her every other second - I held her all the time - I only put her down when I needed the bathroom or to close my eyes for a moment ! We all did everything. My beautiful first born was only 4 and half years old when baby Rosie was born she was so looking forward to a baby sister. We had 12 weeks with her = 6 weeks in hospital and 6 weeks at home, she was loved and cherished by all.

After the emptiness, I was desperate to fill the void.

My delicious boy was delivered healthily just over a year later. His birth was not without problems (antoher blog) but we fought the odds together

With all my heart I wish my Beautiful Boy a Wonderful Birthday and a Wonderful Life.

To my little Angel in Heaven my kisses and love are always with her ...

On the mend . . and back Doing

It's been almost three months since I had my new hip and thanks to my lovely family and friends I am on the mend and I have started back to work ! The scar is healing nicely and although I still have stiffness ( which, I'm assured will lessen with time ) I am pleased with the result. I'm not going to lie to you it was a particularly horrid op and I won't forget the first 3 nights when I was in hospital and the tears of pain I shed - bucketloads !
And so to work, my beautiful friend Melanie (one of my blond friends from the tour back in the summer) and I set up a little "Doing" business last year we "do" for people! We started out working with the elderly, doing their washing, cleaning, shopping,taking them to
Their appointments at the doctors/hospital/hairdressers etc. But word got around to their families and friends and now we "do" for all sorts of folks - young professionals too busy to do for themselves, young families with very untidy children who really appreciate a bit of fairy dust sprinkled around their homes, retired couples who prefer to be on the golf course than to be stuck indoors doing for themselves. It can be (on our busy days) rather tiring on the old bones, but a hot bath at the end of the day sorts that out ! We both enjoy our "doing" we Can have a natter whilst driving to and fro, we get an immense amount of satisfaction knowing all our " Do Fors "are coming home to lovely clean sweet smelling homes - for the ladies and gentlemen who are in their cosy homes whilst we are there we are safe in the knowledge that for a short time they have had company and a chat which makes the job even more pleasant.
So hopefully the new hip will continue to repair so all our lovely families,singles, marrieds and others can benefit from our "Doing" ! ;)

Old friends

Today I was playing with my new phone, I seem to spend a lot of time playing with it at the moment! Whilst going through my hotmail account and deleting all the messages to clear up my inbox, I came across mail from one of my oldest and dearest friends Alison. I immediately emailed her and within a couple of hours she responded! It was wonderful !
I met this wonderful lady when I went to secondary school. Hearing from her again it is as if time had stood still - I think that with old friends that happens you don't have to be in each others pockets you don't have to speak to them everyday or see them, but,its like putting on a pair of really comfy slippers, and relaxing in the knowledge that she knows me so well and I her - I am looking forward to maintaining our friendship through e mail and phone, but, will arrange a meeting in the not too distant future. I really want to give her a hug!

BIRTHDAY CARDS

It was my birthday last week and i got some fabulicious birthday cards. I would like to say Thank you to : My Big girl she sent me a delightful card from her and her boyf and from scrumptious baby girl; Delicious son - sent me an extremely sentimental card (not him at all) very gratefully received!; Little daughter "made" the best card ever - huge love heart with my age written all around the heart .... (thank you for reminding me); My mum and dad, a precious little card (made all the more so due to the lack of card shops where they live);A great card from Berlin (little sister and family);Mr Smiths granny ( she is 95 and remembers everyone...i love her ); and loads from my wonderful friends. This year I also received a : "TO A WONDERFUL DAUGHTER IN-LAW"card ! Never before have I received one ....... I must finally being doing something right !!!!!!!

2nd Time Lucky

Today I went to Newcastle upon Tyne. I went there because my delicious son is going to University there. Like most mothers up and down the country I was feeling very anxious very tearful and very nervous. Anxious, because you never know do you if all the lessons you have tried to teach them (not speaking to strangers - not walking about on your own - not getting so drunk you cant remember your way home etc. etc.)have sunk in ? Tearful - well of course, he is my boy and I love him way too much and i will miss him sooo much. Nervous, well my lad is quite shy, though he does have a fantastic sense of humour, very dry, but you have to know him to know this. I wish I could have got all his flatmates together and told them how divine he is and to be nice to him and cook for him and clean for him and watch over him, but of course i couldn't! They will just have to learn for themselves that he is wonderful and that once he makes you a friend you are very lucky because amongst his other qualities he is a loyal kind and very generous friend.

I went through all this last year, but sadly My Boy was very ill and had to give up his place at uni therefore this is 2nd time lucky. I hope and pray that he will be safe, make loads of new and wonderful friends, that he will grow in confidence but mostly that he will have loads of fun and be really happy!

Look How Much She Has Grown !

Isnt she growing quickly ? Isabelle Rose will soon celebrate her first birthday she is an absolute delight and I love her very much xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Happy Birthday Donna !

Yesterday, it was my dear friend Donna's birthday so i would like to wish her very, very, Many Happy Returns !
Donna is a smashing girl - she is extremely kind, she is generous,thoughtful, and warm ,she is strong and feminine at the same time - she is totally UN-assuming and without any kind of vanity, she is shy, she is a wonderful, supportive wife AND she is a BRILLIANT mother !
Donna was born in the UK but has grown up in South Africa - sadly her daddy died at a very young age and her mother continues to live in SA.
Therefore when she became pregnant with her first born i took her under my wing (not that Donsie needed any wing to hide under) I became a kind of surrogate mum to her, and we awaited the birth of our team baby - Caydince! Donna proved to be the most unselfish mother right from the start and whenever we were all at the cricket club she would let us all have cuddles and kisses with her precious little bundle!
Caydince is the most confident, delicious, delightful little girl and i love her sooooooooo much she comes to my house for the odd sleepover (she doesnt know that i actually love her coming more than she loves to come).
This year Donna, Hennie and Princess Caydince added to their delightful family ! Princess Caydince now has a little baby sister ..... Alyissa, she is so like her mummy, in looks, its untrue - I have to say if she has half the qualities her mother has she will be truly blessed.
So I would once again like to say Happy Birthday to the wonderful Donna!